Parenting Tips:
Don’t try to mold your kid into what you want them to be try to let them find their own identity.
Trust your gut and instincts when it comes to taking care of a newborn do what feels naturally.
Its okay to say no.
“Your child can’t help being the way he is, and if you understand the roots of his behavior, you’ll be more likely to empathize with and accept him.”
“Keep in mind, too, that the better you can embrace your child in all his uniqueness, the better able you will be to channel his more difficult behavior — so that as he grows, his strengths will shine and you’ll get more fun out of being his parent.”
Your work job is going to come after your mom job, mom is first priority.
Sometimes even though discipline is difficult its the best thing to do in the long run for your child.
“Notice times when your kids are most likely to talk — for example, at bedtime, before dinner, in the car — and be available.”
“Start the conversation; it lets your kids know you care about what’s happening in their lives.”
“Find time each week for a one-on-one activity with each child, and avoid scheduling other activities during that time.”
“Learn about your children’s interests — for example, favorite music and activities — and show interest in them.”
“Initiate conversations by sharing what you have been thinking about rather than beginning a conversation with a question.”
Express curiosity and interest in what your child has to say.
Try to see their perspective even though it might be difficult at times.
“Let them complete their point before you respond.”
“Repeat what you heard them say to ensure that you understand them correctly.”
“Soften strong reactions; kids will tune you out if you appear angry or defensive.”
“Express your opinion without putting down theirs; acknowledge that it’s okay to disagree.”
“Resist arguing about who is right. Instead say, “I know you disagree with me, but this is what I think.”
“Focus on your child’s feelings rather than your own during your conversation.”
“Listening and talking is the key to a healthy connection between you and your children. But parenting is hard work and maintaining a good connection with teens can be challenging, especially since parents are dealing with many other pressures. If you are having problems over an extended period of time, you might want to consider consulting with a mental health professional to find out how they can help.”
When our daughter started whining, we decided to let her understand how it sounds to others so we would respond to
her in a whiny voice. She hated listening to us and quickly stopped.
When our daughter started whining, we decided to let her understand how it sounds to others so we would respond to
her in a whiny voice. She hated listening to us and quickly stopped.
Dividing up night shifts is actually better for your lack of sleep. The less your up when you don’t have to be the better for your health. This is critical when you come into parenthood. Sleep deprivation can affect your mood, concentration and your coping skills of your new child.
Quality time with your kid is just as vital as quality time by yourself sometimes.
Its okay to accept help when you need it.
Maintain a social life too, it’s okay to go out once and awhile with other mothers to take a break and get advice.
Baby proofing the house is vital especially when you have a curious toddler roaming around the house.
Teen mothers parenting advice:
Find yourself a support system before your child enters the world make sure their dependable and in your best interests.
“The absolute most important thing you can do for your child is to provide for him or her, and part of that too is setting an example. The only way you’ll ever be able to support yourself or your #baby is if you get a good job, and the only way to do that is to stay in school. Capital letters here for emphasis: STAY IN SCHOOL.”
Children’s diets are made up of primarily Vitamin A,D, and B12 . When your child grows older you actually don’t have to limit their dairy intake just offer lower fat options for example, skim milk.
“Fruits and veggies
During the second year, it is especially important for parents to provide healthy options when transitioning their kids to table food. According to Reidy, between 9 and 11 months old, kids consume more veggies than at any other time between birth and 4 years old. When baby food drops out of the diet, kids consume much fewer veggies and the quality of the veggies changes. For example, starchy potatoes replace vitamin-rich yellow and green veggies.”
“Expose kids to different tastes and textures, and pay attention to the developmental appropriateness of foods. Kids don’t always have the motor skills to eat a wide variety of food,” Reidy says. “It’s important to track your child’s growth and check with his or her pediatrician for individualized nutrition plans.”
Read as much as you can to your child as early as you can.
Be prepared to get ready and give yourself more time to get ready to things then you usually do to get everything ready.
Be prepared to give up a lot of your leisure time when you have a child its not the same as when you didn’t have a child.
Don’t disagree about children discipline in front of a child.
“Agree on what behavior is desirable and not desirable.”
“Agree on how to respond to undesirable behavior.”
“Make it as clear as possible what the child is to expect if he or she performs the undesirable behavior.”
“Make it very clear what the undesirable behavior is. It is not enough to say, “Your room is messy.” Messy should be specified in terms of exactly what is meant: “You’ve left dirty clothes on the floor, dirty plates on your desk, and your bed is not made.”
“Once you have stated your position and the child attacks that position, do not keep defending yourself. Just restate the position once more and then stop responding to the attacks.
Look for gradual changes in behavior. “
“Don’t expect too much.”
“Praise behavior that is coming closer to the desired goal.”
“Remember that your behavior serves as a model for your children’s behavior.”
“If one of you is disciplining a child and the other enters the room, that other person should not step in on the argument in progress.”
Discipline should consist of firm, fair, and friendly.
Help your child learn to express how he feels. Say: “You seem frustrated.” “How are you feeling?” “Are you up set?” “You look like you are angry about that.” “It’s O.K. to feel that way.”
“Try to see a situation the way your children do. Listen carefully to them. Try to form a mental picture of how it would look to them.”
“Use a soft, confident tone of voice to redirect them when they are upset.”
“Be a good listener: Use good eye contact. Physically get down to the level of smaller children.”
“Don’t interrupt. Ask open ended questions rather than questions that can be answered with a yes or no. Repeat back to them what you heard.”
“Make sure they understand directions. Have them repeat them back.”
“When possible give them choices of when and how to comply with a request.”
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When our daughter started whining, we decided to let her understand how it sounds to others so we would respond to
her in a whiny voice. She hated listening to us and quickly stopped.
When our daughter started whining, we decided to let her understand how it sounds to others so we would respond to
her in a whiny voice. She hated listening to us and quickly stopped.
Resources used
http://www.parents.com/parenting/better-parenting/style/
http://www.apa.org/helpcenter/communication-parents.aspx
http://www.webmd.com/parenting/baby/features/babyproof-your-sanity-6-tips-for-new-parents?page=3
http://parenting.allwomenstalk.com/9-tips-for-real-teen-moms
http://childdevelopmentinfo.com/how-to-be-a-parent/parenting/
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